Honestly, the top 11 secrets most men keep wasn't terribly enlightening. I like that they appended it with "most" men, because those secrets definitely don't apply to apply to all men. My husband, for example, is utterly delighted when I drive. He doesn't play golf (video games, however, is another story) and he might wish he was 25 again, but I'm pretty sure he does so also wishing he can keep the knowledge and experience he's gained since he was 25. But overall, it was a disappointing list. I was hoping for a little more insight. The top 11 secrets most women keep, while more accurate in my opinion, was equally superficial and most of the things on it, I'm sure my husband would say are not "secrets."
So from a woman's point of view, I'll expand on a couple of these "secrets." Yes, it's likely the items we bought probably did cost 20% more than what we told you, but it's also likely they cost 30% less than what we told our girlfriends. Yes, we do notice and appreciate the chores you do but we worry if we make a big deal of it, you'll realize you're doing something out of the ordinary that is not expected and you'll stop. We are absolutely scared we'll turn into our mothers but most of the time we don't notice when we do the same things they do that irritate us. So, yes, the most hurtful thing you can say is "You're acting just like your mother" but at the same time, letting us know (in a kind way) that we are doing the same things we complain about helps us avoid those things in the future.
Now that I've opened up a bit with my secrets, play fair. Provide some more insight and perspective on these lists from either point of view.
Reader Comments (Page 1 of 1)
1. What is wrong with sounding like our mothers!!!!!!!!!!!!
Posted at 7:39PM on Sep 25th 2007 by jg3now8
2. I play golf because I enjoy it. Getting away from the house and the spouse for 4+ hours is just a bonus.
Posted at 11:30AM on Sep 26th 2007 by T-Mo
3. Well again, it's secrets *MOST* women have, and being scared I'm going to turn into my Mom is one I can relate to, but it certainly doesn't have to be one everyone does.
Posted at 5:07PM on Sep 27th 2007 by itshotsummer
4. So are there other activities you do in order to get away from your spouse that you don't necessarily enjoy independently of that perk?
Posted at 5:08PM on Sep 27th 2007 by itshotsummer
5. trust me it was no secret,not in america. its a hot summer ya but not for your boyfriend i bet good thing your moms loyal and your right you aint.huhnot to mention mr.hots about as intellegent as a piece of government contamenated soil.
Posted at 6:51AM on Sep 28th 2007 by russell
6. Russell - What on earth are you talking about? Are you actually trying to make a real comment, or are you just some drunk homeless guy who wandered into the library to get warm and decided to use the computer to make random, whacked out comments on blogs while you were there?
Posted at 11:22AM on Sep 28th 2007 by T-Mo
7. as a guy I feel The eleven secrets most men keep should read as below instead of as i read it in the article
1 I only fall in lust once every couple months, not ten times a day and i don't tell you because i don't want you to get in a huff pover something that never happened
2 I don't play golf and don't get to go fishing nearly enough, i didn't even before we met...see number fore below. we don't try to get away because of someone but just to get away get our peace of mind back, get our head back square on our shoulders. etc if you love someone you don't saddle them with all your problems, ( only the ones that effect them directly and not even all of those)
3 I'm not the one afraid of commitment. at least not that commitment, I'm just afraid of paying for it when I don't have the ability to do so but have to do so anyway to keep you happy.
4 I hate earning money, it means i am slaving for someone else not enjoying my life, family, friends, etc.
5 I hate fixing things because almost every time I try I break it worse. But i have to try because I'm a man and you expect and or demand it of me. or so i think
6 mothers-in-law are good for two things raising their kids right( ie make you who you are) and being a baby sitter when you need to go somewhere. so no i would not want my lady to become her mother,... or mine, though i loved and honored her dearly when she was alive.
7 Every year I will love her more But I won't show it because someone will get me on harrassment and or stalking charges, or call me a clinging vine and need her freedom.
8 true; this one can stay as it was in the article.
9 it isn't just the spouce 's driving it's anyones driving other than mine, i'm just being more honest with you than anyone else
10 sorry not 25...21
11 give me an inch and i will......... should read keep me happy and I will do my best to keep you happy. as often as not men use their golf buddies or fishing buddies or poker buddies that your always complaining about to get out of YOUR way so you have the personal time and or alone time that you demand so often and won't start calling them an unfeeling brute and a clinging vine. but you call us this anyway. so we can't win so we get out of the way because we know that otherwise we will eventually get tired of it just like you do..
Posted at 2:13PM on Oct 7th 2007 by scott
8. as a private person I feel you do not have to tell everything that you have done in life to just the first time you mets a man or woman or friend and whatever.
I have my own husband and feel like a queen. He knows all about me from head to toe but I didn't discuss my hole life...on bad habits and bad choses. I wanted to see if was really a person who listened, needed a word of encouraging...most of would pray with me or for me when I need him to. I feel like if you are a child of God then you are forgiven...if you ask and repent. God will work out eveything for me in His own time frame.
Posted at 5:34AM on Oct 8th 2007 by " 2 Blessed " Duo
9. Thanks for your insights and perspective on the secrets Scott. It's good to hear a guy's version of what was published.
Posted at 5:38PM on Oct 8th 2007 by itshotsummer
10. 2 Blessed - I agree that even after speaking to the list of secrets, which I still believe are not secrets so much as expansions on things we already suspect, most men and women will probably still have secrets such as insecurities, anxieties, habits or choices that they don't disclose.
Posted at 5:46PM on Oct 8th 2007 by itshotsummer